What Kids Need
Kids Need Candor
(Ephesians 4:15, 1 Thessalonians 5:21)
The Situation: Kids ask, "What am I really good at?" Some children are accustomed to candy-coated compliments and praise for mediocre efforts. But they see through superficiality and can spot insincerity a mile away. Kids don't receive a genuine appraisal of their abilities.
The Solution: Children expect people to be honest with them, but they are often disappointed. Many adults are disingenuous when it comes to "speaking the truth in love." We are overly concerned about hurting a child's feelings or damaging his or her morale. This approach often backfires. Kids appreciate people who are frank and sincere with them.
What You Can Do: Inventory your child's strengths and weaknesses. Be candid and affirming as you build on the strengths and address the weaknesses. When you point out a concern, be sure to provide encouraging solutions. Speak openly, but be careful not to exasperate or deflate him or her. Your child will value your assessment and greatly benefit from it.
